Hello and welcome back.
Not sure about you but here in my family there was a distinct lack of work motivation on the part of my kids. They were really focused on relaxing and playing the digital circus games. At least that’s what I call it. It’s a Merry Go Round of non-achievement.
But things are now getting better and better. My son is cooking up supper for the rest of us as I am writing this, and he is doing a great job of it as near as I can tell. How did we get that happening when it used to be so damn hard to get any work out of him?
You might notice, if your situation is anything like mine, that those who do little work spend a lot of time badmouthing everyone else. They are always pointing the finger at somebody else. At the same time, what they are complaining about others doing, is usually something that they are doing in some area of living. It might not be exactly the same, but there will be a element that can be closely compared to what they are complaining about.
This can be really useful.
We approached our son and pointed out how he was acting in exactly the way he was complaining about. We didn’t go on about this, and we didn’t shout about it. Just a quiet assertion of fact.
Then we asked for help. We calmly talked about what kind of help we would like and asked him what he thought of that. He thought it was reasonable and right away we got his input into drawing up a schedule where he could contribute. His input was key to this.
Then we supported his desires on how he went about it, and were thankful for the good work he was doing. All of this has brought us closer and is creating a more collaborative way of working. When we are working together, we keep it light and talk about things we can both enjoy.
This is creating happy harmony in our home and is making the whole family team much happier and helpful. It seems to be much more helpful way of influencing than the finger-pointing, yelling and screaming. Try it out and let us know what you find.
You may even find a better way and we would love to hear about that.
Happy days to you and yours.
Take care, stay well, have fun!